Anti-Bullying: Self Esteem

  1. A person who has healthy self esteem doesn’t as easily or as often sink to a critical level of social insecurity — the point where it seems necessary or acceptable to protect or advance their position by pushing others down in some way. The child who is successful at something — and secure about that — is less likely to bully others. This is the bullying prevention value of building self esteem in youngsters. Get this right, and a large part of the problem will disappear.
  2. A person who has healthy self esteem is more resilient when they experience variability of their status with a change of context. The child who is successful at something — and secure about that — is more emotionally resilient, even if they are targeted in some other context. This is the bullying protection value of building self esteem in youngsters. Get this right, and a large part of the problem will become less acute.

What is Self Esteem?

  1. Build ourselves up
  2. Push the other(s) down

What Can I Do?

  1. Consistently model this way of thinking by sharing your own challenges and measures of progress with them.
  2. Consistently ask your child about what they’ve done recently that they are proud of.
  3. Consistently give them opportunities to answer with measures of progress they’ve made in challenges worthy of stretching their abilities.

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